I am, first of all, a father. I have also been active in the Parents-Teachers Association (PTA or PIBG) over the last 8 years, with the last 2 as the Chairman of SK Tropikana PTA. I am also a senior employee of a global multinational corporation with regional responsibilities requiring me to travel a lot.
I am blessed with 4 wonderful kids. While having four kids doesn't give me the right to write a book about parenting, it does give me a huge awareness that I am shouldering a huge responsibility here. I love to read, and when I got to know that we were expecting our first baby, my reading subjects expanded to cover parenting books. Among the first few books that I read was Raising A Happy, Unspoiled Child by Burton L. Bright (author of the classic The First Three Years of Life and How to Have A Smarter Baby by Dr. Susan Ludington-Hoe. I must say that these two books had a huge impact on me, and whet my appetite for more. I started to view my future kids as someone I can mould, and actively be an important part of their upbringing process. I know then that I can make a difference from Day One!
Fast forward to 13 years later, Faisal, my eldest son, took his UPSR in 2007, and as expected, scored 5As. Well, what's the big deal, you may ask. After all, there were 11,000 others who scored 5As that year. Well, one different that I can claim is, Faisal did it without me having to spend a fortune in sending him to tuition. I see that you are listening now ….yup, like Frankie said, we did it our way. In addition, we could still afford to take our time off to do fun stuff together, while his friends were slogging over the books after books.
What Faisal went through is actually also what I also went through 33 years ago. I excitedly attended my Day One at a primary school in Kelantan. I was raised by my eldest sister whom I fondly called as “Kak Wan” – a respectful title bestowed on the eldest daughter in a family. She had taken me to live with her when I was 5 years old because my parents could not afford to do so as they have 4 other children who were pursuing higher education.
Tough it may seem, it was actually a blessing because Kak Wan really took care of me very well. She brought me up with lots of love but with a tight discipline. She had this routine for me – I could not go out to play until I finished the school homework AND her work that she assigned to me. Not only completed, I had also had to get it all correct! She would diligently check each question and marked them on the spot. If I get them all correct, then only I could go out.
Her favorite subjects were Mathematics and English, where she would create several questions for me to do regularly. These two subjects were the most difficult ones for us back then in rural areas such as Kelantan. For one thing, we had not spoken a single word of English outside of classroom. But she was determined that I must excel in these two subjects, and that drove her to give me more and more exercises.
Her efforts paid off handsomely as I quickly became the top student in the primary school. I had scored 100% in most of my subjects, and had conquered the number 1 spot in class exams for most semesters in my six years there. However, the icing on the cake was when I emerged as the first and only student that year in my school to score 5As in the national primary school exam. That's correct, the school had never had any student scoring 5As before. It was still a big deal then to score 5A in the “Peperiksaan Penilaian Darjah Lima” ( Year Five Assessment Exam ) as it was known then. Needless to say, it was a historic moment for my school, back then in 1980. The exam is now known as the “Ujian Penilaian Sekolah Rendah (UPSR)” ( Primary School Evaluation Test ).
That was when it all began. I learned them as primary student. Lived and breathed them, under Kak Wan's watchful eyes. Many years later, I had an opportunity to put them into practice, again, only this time I am on the other side. Playing Kak Wan's role, Rose and I watched our kids living and breathing them too. Rose & I have been using these strategies for a while now, to all of our school-going children. Here are our success stories so far.